Lynne Daack

Something interesting is happening to many women in their 40s and 50s.Women who once moved through life quietly meeting everyone else's expectations are suddenly finding themselves questioning things they used to accept without much thought. Relationships feel different. Responsibilities feel heavier. The emotional work they have been carrying for years suddenly feels exhausting. Many women describe it as a kind of awakening. Not a dramatic crisis. More like a quiet moment where something...

You’ve probably seen it. The We Do Not Care Club. Women saying it out loud. Women laughing, nodding, forwarding it to their friends. And it’s funny — but it’s also real. In my office lately, I’m seeing women who are just… done. Done cushioning everyone else’s emotions. Done being the household manager, emotional regulator, planner, rememberer, smoother-over. Done pretending it doesn’t bother them. One woman said to me, “I just don’t care anymore.” And she meant: I don’t care about being the...

Lately, a lot of women say the same thing to me: “I’m more irritable than I used to be.” “I have less patience.” “I feel angry, and I don’t like it.” They usually follow it with guilt — or fear that something is wrong with them. But anger doesn’t come out of nowhere. From a trauma-informed and EMDR perspective, anger often shows up when the nervous system has been holding too much for too long . Here are five reasons I see again and again — and why none of them mean you’re broken. 1. You’re...